Oppressed Men // Nut Up or Shut Up

February 5, 2010 | 1:12 pm

We love some good satire at here Gender Relations, which is why the other nights Daily Show had a great segment about men losing their status and power here in America. Samantha Bee goes head to head with sociologist, Dr. Warren Farrell, and I think she does a great job. Her expression of traditional masculinity (the hunting at the end being the best example) against the men’s expression (which seems very unmasculine) shows a very interesting dynamic of men losing power, and how they choose to act..

The men explain the problems they face (although they have a hard time really coming up with answers) in a way that is very sensitive through talking circles. So, there is a irony between the fact that they are losing their traditional senses of power and the fact that they are acting more ‘effeminate’. At the end, Bee even suggests that they are turning her into a lesbian and that they are ‘vaginamen’, which illustrates perfectly that the worst they have to lose is the traditional sense of masculinity (which is very aggressive at times), and that the images of men can be something different. There is a thin line with satire, because by calling them vaginamen, she could be emasculating them even further. There is also an irony that men are upset about WOMEN taking over their positions, yet they are “acting like women”. Maybe the gender struggle is more about power than anything else. When you feel like you are at the bottom (even if it is an illusion), then you become more sensitive, open, communicable, etc. An interesting theory to mull over.

Samantha also cracks a joke about reclaiming their manhood (after making a joke about masturbating in a circle) in relation to their sexuality, which is hard to tell if the joke is clumping sexuality and gender together or not, but something to consider.

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On a more serious note, the ominous news clips at the beginning of the segment are not unlike the feelings these men are expressing in these groups. I don’t find the groups themselves to be hurting anyone, inherently, but you must look at why they are there. They seem like relatively sensitive men (talking sticks?) who are hurting about a loss of power, yet reacting unlike a man of power would react in the situation. Maybe because they are large cultural changes that are happening allowing females to take positions of power, education, and presence in the media, men cannot directly do anything about it.

This feeling of defeat that the men are feeling should be used as a reflective one to both :

Empathize women’s past struggles // There is a huge increase of women coming into power, but have they not earned it? In the past more women have sought out higher education (which makes them more qualified for a large amount of the jobs in our country). Although, matriarchy is not a better model than patriarchy (and I certainly do not see it coming to that, as men are STILL in power), I think this gives men a unique opportunity to try to fit into the ‘high heels’ of women’s historic disadvantage.

Focus on creating better relationships with women // Men and women are not that different. There does not have to be large power differences (shouldn’t the best person get the job?). When men and women work together, really the only loss that can occur is one of traditional power structures. Focusing on how everyone can work better as human beings and not men or women can be beneficial.

I have seen a lot of these men’s groups popping up lately. Magazines dedicated to the proposition, entire organizations functioning on the sole thought that men are losing their grips of power, but when you look at the statistics (which I believe Samantha and The Daily Show point out quite eloquently), it becomes easy to see that men have nothing to fear with their hands grasped tightly to the major corporations in our country. I can see how women becoming equal could threaten a man’s position, but it has been a position that fits wrongly in the place of decency. We are equal people, and before this gets too corny, I would like to end by saying that these groups could help awaken men to be more sensitive and open (but without the banter of losing power).

Feministing (where I found this clip), really positions themselves in the area that the segment was unsuccessful and that it seemed to be making fun of men who weren’t meeting the traditions of masculinity anyways. I would agree with this (which was addressed in some of my comments above), but at the same time, it is important to realize why the men are there. I think the groups are great because men are expressing themselves in non-traditional ways, but it is as a backlash to women becoming more equal. Even though they do break out of traditional dominance of masculinity, they aren’t doing it for the reasons of safety or progressive attitudes, but because they feel like they are losing something (that does not inherently even belong to them) If men becoming more sensitive and women becoming more equal is the end of the formula, then why not? I do understand the point of the target, and I feel like the nature of TDS is to draw attention to a group like this (to get an alternative view – agreed they could have done it a little better), but I think Bee’s behavior in the segment is really reflective of trying to reject traditional masculinity that those men feel like they have lost (which I think the origin of why the group is formed is very integral to understanding why they are breaking out of the traditional format of masculinity). It’s a touchy line, and hard to discern one way or the other, but her gross representation of masculinity was one I felt paired interestingly with the gross behavior of the men.

A tip of the hat to Feministing, where I found this story.

What is your take on the segment?

Superbowl 2010 // Advertising Limitations

February 4, 2010 | 8:58 pm

So, with the Superbowl on it’s way this Sunday, there has been a lot of controversy surrounding some of the ads that are going to be displayed or not displayed. In my previous post, I mentioned CBS’ involvement in showing anti-abortion ads for the group Focus on Families. A little update of that effort : CREDO (the organization involved in the petition to pull those ads) have gathered over 120,000 signatures, which CBS is very aware of, but choose to ignore. Regardless of your stance on the issue, it is hard to feel sympathy for CBS’ hypocrisy with their “No-Advocacy” policy, when they start banning other advertisements that may promote certain lifestyles they do not wish to align themselves with.

Now, I have come across two specifically that really benchmark what kind of game is being played at the superbowl this year (pun intended). Even with the number of people that watch the Superbowl, football is largely a masculine sport with male followers. With that being said, I think it sets the stage for the two banned ads (I am sure there are more) that came my way.

ManCrunch

ManCrunch, which is an online gay dating site has had their ad refused by the powers that be. Now, there is already a little controversy with this ad in general. The signs in the back, the displeased friend, etc. Although there are multiple interpretations, I would say that having a football related , gay ad would be a good ad to run, regardless of some of the negatives. I think the ad breaks the gender barrier of saying that masculine, football-loving men are, indeed, gay as well. Take from the ad what you will, but the ban is very obviously one of gay nature (and im sure the image of very tough, football-loving, men shunning their heterosexual nature isn’t part of that AT ALL). The thing to consider here is the mash-up of gender and sexuality. Even though these men are retaining their masculine qualities (being strong, etc.), their masculinity is instantly stripped once they are gay. It’s an interesting and ironic measurement of gender studies to see how those two can be separate, then closely tied in specific circumstances.

GoDaddy

This one has surprised me. GoDaddy is notorious for very sexist, over the top, sexualized advertisements (FOR WEB HOSTING!). Just last year I switched my hosting to DreamHost because I did not agree with Bob Parsons’ take on women, the industry, and advertising. I didn’t want to support such blatant objectification of women. That is why their latest ad can only dictate the humiliation of effeminate acting men. In the ad, Lola (an ex-football player), built a business as a clothing designer. Of course, Lola is very “gay acting” (effeminate), and even though effeminiate does not equate homosexuality, I think it is implied in this ad. I am not sure the intent GoDaddy had with this one. Danica Patrick has been their mascot for quite some time, and she is in her full suit (sometimes she’s barely wearing anything), and narrating the story of Lola. I’m not sure if they were TRYING to sell limited images of gender (how a masculine man can become feminine with the snap of selling clothing — hint : selling clothes does not make you snap your fingers and lisp) or if they were trying to get the gay vote (if they were, they need better marketing consultants). Either way, it’s fail, so it is good this is pulled off the air, but in the same time, the reasons for it being pulls are also for the wrong reasons.

Now, between the ManCrunch and this ad, both gender and sexuality for men take a beating, as well as women’s right to choose abortion as an option. I am not sure how in 2010, we are regressing so much, but apparently the marketers are pulling out all the stops on this event.

I don’t watch the superbowl (as a male!), but I wish I did , so I could boycott the event. I really am excited to see what ads actually air, and then the final release of the rejected ads. If you have any other gender/sex related banned superbowl 2010 ads, let me know! Also, let me know your thoughts on the ads!

Media Abortion // CBS Pro-Life Ads

January 30, 2010 | 3:17 pm

I am wondering what the fate of CBS’ anti-abortion ads for the superbowl game is going to be. CBS has a known “Anti-Advocacy” claim in their policy, yet the group, Focus on Family, has paid to run an advertisement about “celebrating life” (in a pro-life kind of way).

Focus on the Family’s “celebrate life” (read: anti-choice) ad features Heisman Trophy-winning college football star Tim Tebow. And CBS approved this anti-choice ad, even though the network has repeatedly rejected advocacy ads in past years including a 2004 MoveOn.org ad that went after then-President Bush’s fiscal irresponsibility and an ad the same year from the United Church of Christ showing them welcoming a gay couple who had been turned away from another church.

There’s a lot wrong with this that relates directly to last weeks overhaul of the legislation to treat corporations as individuals (i.e. they can push as much money into politics as they want). This seems like another fast footed option to give conglomerates more power that relates directly to women’s health issues. Now, regardless of which side on the abortion debate you are on, there becomes a moral issue of multi-billion dollar corporations that can put their money into sensitive and controversial issues (when their goal is to entertain). It’s an unbalanced approach because it’s not like women’s health clinics have the money to push into superbowl ads, thus giving an unbalanced representation of views (which I could also deduct was part of CBS’ thought process in coming up with their anti-advocacy policy, which puts them outside these types of issue).

If you feel strongly about this CREDO Action has a petition to pull the ads. It seems pretty late in the game to pull them, but at least it will show support that people do not agree with this position. The superbowl is masculine enough, do the ads have to promote taking away women’s rights?

SIGN THE PETITION :
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Tubes of Lipstick // Lily Holbrook’s “Bleed”

January 29, 2010 | 1:53 pm

Sometimes it’s hard to find A.) Music that does not mention the word “bitch”, “ho”, or another derogatory word

in it, especially on the radio, and B.) go one step beyond that and find music with a very positive AND progressive message (lots of children’s music is positive, but may not be progressive).

In an effort to steer people in some directions of some media that is either hopeful or critical of certain gender related topics, I want to try to post at least 1 “alternative a week”.

That brings me to musician Lily Holbrook. Her sound is very dim, almost morose, and I wouldn’t say as an artist all her music is overly progressive, but one song on the album “Everything was Beautiful and Nothing Hurt” titled “Bleed” has a very positive message embedded about the state of unrealistic expectations (for female body image) and even uses that phrase. Sometimes we can see progressive messages between the lines, but I find it really helpful (especially for teenagers) if there is some media out there that has equally blatant messages as those we hear on the radio on the other side of the spectrum.

It is always my position to educate and not erradicate. Some of the music on the radio has some really good beats. I think the problem comes in when we don’t really listen to the lyrics and wonder why everything has to be about sex, and it cannot be about community or friendship or other positive messages.

Lily’s “Bleed” really tackles the depression and feelings that come about when we feel as if we cannot measure up to the media’s messages.

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Gloss over all those magazines
Painted with plastic surgery
And replace so easily
By a girl like you or me

Expectations are unrealistic
Between the mirror and the tube of lipstick

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed
Bleed

Sad, pathetic little me
Never thought I’d be so eager to please
And replaced so easily
By a girl like you or me

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed
Bleed

You see, the world is different now
Everybody’s different now
Everybody needs a little fixing up
But when’s it gonna stop
‘Cause I don’t even recognize you anymore
Do you love yourself now?
Do you love yourself now?

Gloss over all those magazines
Painted with plastic surgery

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed

Although music is highly interpretable, the main question becomes what does “Bleed” specifically refer to. It could be quite literal to the problem. Many women (and men), use cutting as a means to deal with their depression and feelings of isolation. It could be a metaphor for the internal pain, it could also mean the literal blood that some women draw in order to look “beautifulI” (she cites modeling and plastic surgery). For me, it means all of these things, and I think it’s a really powerful song for young girls and boys to hear, that they don’t have to look to those places, and feel so alone because they are fabrications.

I Hope They DONT Serve Beer in Hell // Faceless Woman?

January 27, 2010 | 12:06 am

I was just reading a movie blog when an add for the direct-to-DVD (probably because it’s too over the top for theaters) film “I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell” popped up on the side. Now, I have seen this book in Borders in the humor section, so it’s not meant to give a totally accurate portrayal of men, but it becomes pretty apparent in the cross-over version of this film (just from watching the preview) or seeing the ad to the right that women are going to be overly objectified in a way that is not even masked  in the littlest sense. The entire film is just about how guys are assholes.

Upon further look at the trailer (end of this article). there are MANY things wrong, even in the first few moments of the trailer.

  • Guy asks beautiful young woman what she is doing. She replies that she is talking to the turtle in the tank, and he wonders if they are telling her to KILL “the fat chick” at the bar. When the girl walks away he asks how she could be real because “fat girls aren’t real people”.

I don’t think a lot of this trailer needs to be analyzed because I would hope that everyone realized how over the top it actually is, but just in case a 7 year old gets hold of this film, they are going to both A.) devalue women in general B.) devalue women who are not a size 1 even more. The male goes even further to suggest that the turtles are telling the girl to MURDER the heavier set woman in the film. Not a great message.

  • Typical roadtrip to a stripclub, which is featured in a lot of male-centric films.
  • Defiance of the law (urinating in public)
  • Very typical dynamic between boyfriend who goes on the trip and the girl who stays behind. Although this is not technically cheating, it shows a mask for lying, deceit, and uses the metaphor for cheating. He is usually the “sweet” guy, but is still peer pressured by the others to participate.
  • As with a lot of films in a similar nature, the main goal is to get laid, but not before getting extremely wasted. What kind of message does this send about healthy sexuality when these films constantly promote the mixing of sex and alcohol (ability to give consent, anyone?). Although these images are of social drinking as well, there is a major problem with alcoholism in our country, especially with depressed males, so that sends a whole other set of messages.

I am going to have to watch this film to just see how horrible it is, although I will need to find an art in summarizing because I am sure it will be an hour and a half of blantent stereotypical hyper-masculine behavior. Although the film is marketed as “these guys are assholes” (and who wants to be an asshole?), they are still images of men being men. Also, I am not against just a comedic experience in general (I think political incorrectness is funny as well), but I think as to go as far as suggesting a “fat chick get murdered” is outside the scope of satire / rude humor.

Packaging Gender // Event at University of Maine

January 13, 2010 | 6:46 pm

Although I have yet to get all the way through the book “Packaging Girlhood” by Lyn Mikel Brown and Sharon Lamb, it is a great analysis of how marketing and media extrapolate gender stereotypes for girls and sell them through tv, movies, clothing, and other society “packages”. The authors of that book , including Mark Tappan, have recently released their followup “Packaging Boyhood”. My copy came in the mail today, and I have read the intro thus far, and it sounds really exciting.

Anyways, the authors will be at the University of Maine (in Orono) on January 26th for a few events :

Stodder Hall
10 – 11:30

After this presentation and discussion they will be at the

Women in Curriculum Luncheon in the Bangor Room starting at 12:15

If you haven’t heard of the books, pick them up, they are a great stepping stone into gender based marketing research and are really comprehensive (as much as you can be on the media) with their examples and though process. I am sure after reading Packaging Boyhood I will have a new take on some of the blogging that I do myself. I already am having some interesting realizations after reading the introduction.

See you there!

Going for the Double Whip // Orientation Vs. Gender

January 7, 2010 | 1:22 pm

Whip It was released in theaters last October (when I should have posted this), but I watched it again last night, and got “Derby Fever” once again. If you are unfamiliar with the film, Ellen Page stars as Bliss Cavender, an alternative misfit who works on a diner and leads a relatively guided life with her mother constantly entering pageants. She soon finds a flyer for a women’s roller derby bout and falls instantly in love. Without giving the entire plot, she joins the team and soars, finding herself in the fitting mantra of the film : Be Your Own Hero.

Putting my love for Ellen Page is hard because she plays this role like a rockstar, but the shows bevy of positive gender roles throughout it. I’ve often coined that “matriarchy is no better than patriarchy”, which could be construed in this film (how is it different than say, men’s wrestling?) because the full contact sport can be relatively injury-inducing. I don’t really want to press the point on this because although agressive sports have their spot for discussion, the film focuses more on the relationships of Bliss finding herself as a young woman.

The characters in this film are phenomenal. Drew Barrymore’s directorial debut shines with positive female energy. The women in the film are both aggressive and caring. Kristen Wiig’s character is touch on the skates, but at night does not go out with her fellow teammates because she is taking care of her son. This shows a mixture of traditional “caretaking” and agressive sports participation. Viewers don’t even realize the “caretaking” side of her until much later on in the film because her son is often referred to as “her man” (which implies she has a boyfriend waiting at home). Drew’s character is probably the most agressive, getting into fights, playfully beating up her boyfriend, and generally having violent tendencies, but she is still fun and loving (she keeps her aggression in the game for the most part).

As much as I am not for agressive sports, the film takes me back to my childhood when roller derby gained it’s second wind of popularity. Even though women being violent isn’t an answer to all the “gender problems” in our society, I think leveling the playing field and showing that women can be tough, independent, and organize themselves (although their coach is male). The film is very loosely based on the real life roller derby resurgence that happened in the 90’s. If you watch the documentary, Hell on Wheels, you get an entirely different outlook on the reality of this resurgence. I would recommend this film as well because it shows how the real life coach was really in it for the money and screwed over the women who were the heart of roller derby, so the re-organized themselves without him.

I don’t want to boast about all the metaphors in the film, it’s a coming of age film, so there are a lot of layers about growth and the transitions from teen to adulthood. When I first saw the film, I was doing some research to see what other people thought about the film, and I found an article in “Psychology Today” entitled “Lesbian Fantasy, Disguised“, where author Jeremy Clyman suggests that the entire film was a huge “coming out” story for Ellen Page’s character. Although my bias comes in the form of being drawn to sociological theory and reasoning, I think some of the claims in this article are just far out. I will start off by saying that film, like most art, is highly interpretive, so his analysis on the film has validity, my main gripe comes with passing off his personal interpretation as either scientific, or sound enough to have on a website that is supposed to support psychological research. My other problem comes with the fact that most of this article ignores any sociological factors.

But I think this film is also a secret communication to closeted lesbians living in hostile places in which the closet is the only safe place to be.

I didn’t get this at all from the film. Bliss and her mother have a tumultuous relationship, but I don’t see this as a “closet-case”. Bliss’ mother enters her into debutant-style pageants, and as a growing teen who is moving into an alternative lifestyle, it just does not fit. A lot of this article talks about “secret communication” a.k.a. “Metaphor!”, which can be found in any film, it doesn’t exclusively suggest that this is the case. Bliss reconsiles with her mother at the end (although agreed her mother doesn’t fully accept it). Although seeing the film through Jeremy’s interpretation would be a good one, and someone like me who is usually looking for metaphors did not see this level of the film at all (again, not suggesting it cannot be there)

Let’s back up before we get into conspiracy theories. “Whip It” is directed by a female (Barrymore), its protagonist is female (Page), and the story is about a girl who becomes a woman in a female dominated world. There isn’t a serious male character to be seen. Oddly enough, the film is also about sports and the Deep South. I know what you’re thinking. I, as a heterosexual man, am incapable of watching an exclusively female story without conflating its straightforward coming-of-age purpose with some sort of secret, subversive sexual agenda.

He does note this, but although they are not the lead characters, there is at least 1 serious male role (which he later effeminates in the article as he wears short shorts). The more you read the article the more you can see that gender is the primary transcendance of this film, and not sexuality (the only obvious sexuality in the film is when Bliss has sex with her :boyfriend: Oliver.

I have developed the hypothesis of “Whip It” as lesbian fantasy in disguise, because even if this is not the intention of the filmmaker, it still works on this level, and by functioning on this level it is serving a social purpose above and beyond the gender equality comment that women can make films too.

I don’t think the “purpose” of the film is to show that women can make films, I think it is that women can be strong, agressive, play sports, kick ass, and still be caring, loving, and dynamic (as all humans should be).

First, there needs to be a concealable stigma, as it is this notion that constitutes the heart of the dilemma of being, in this case, homosexual. Possessing a concealable stigma means that a significant aspect of one’s identity can be hidden from the public, and the public has arbitrarily defined this aspect of identity to be poisonous/unequal/unlovable/you get the idea. “Whip It” is about a less intense stigma than being gay; it is about being a female athlete in a sport that is embedded in a punk culture. This is sufficiently unsuitable for a high-society southern lady hoping to appease societal expectations.

Note the part in bold. He says directly that the stigma is not about being gay, that it is about being a female athlete. Now, if we know anything of SOCIOLOGY, we’d know that gender is a social construct, such as “a female being an athlete”. “Punk Culture”, “High-Society”, “Societal Expectations” (i feel like he is accepting it there at the end), but these are all factors that would hinge on the “female being an athlete” portion of the film, into a gender-breaking film, not a sexuality-breaking film. If Whip it wanted to be “gay”, it would have done it more obviously like in Point C of this next quote

A. “Whip It” is about roller blading, which this movie defines as a group of half-drunk women, in tight athletic gear and rollerblades muscling each other for inside positioning, as a few key teammates weave in and out of the pack. Those that have finesse are chased by those that have strength, somewhat akin to the cat and mouse pursuit of a top and bottom sexual power dynamic (there’s a reason the standard sexual position is missionary). In short, this game is a metaphor for sex.
B. The protagonist, Bliss (Page), behaves in the way that a lesbian might behave before she knows she’s a lesbian. We meet her just as she’s playfully dying her hair blue for a beauty pageant. Her inexplicable love for roller derby is incited by the image of three women pushing each other on rollerblades. She dumps her boyfriend with suspicious ease and celerity. She’s an adolescent who likes to be different, is experimental and puts a boyfriend second to roller derby. Now, obviously none of these things makes her a suppressed lesbian, but as a lesbian in the audience you might be cued into the possibility of an alternative, unconscious sexual agenda.
C. A character named “Jaba the Slut” is definitely a lesbian. She winks at girls and offers them drinks and come-on lines. This is never made explicit, which signals to the audience that lesbianism is both present and not really present.

A. There seems to be a lot of stretching happening here. First of all the “Hurl Scouts” (that sounds sexy, doesn’t it!), and the other teams do dress a little “scantily”, but this could easily be attributed to women recognizing their sexuality (a la “My Short Skirt” in the Vagina Monologues), but it is for them only. They are strong and powerful women, is it gay that men who play football wear tights as well? What would you call a male dancer in a leotard with an all female troupe? Is he trying to “get all the ladies”, gender and stereotyping would dictate otherwise. I don’t think I can even justify a response to how “being chased by those with strength” is a metaphor for sex, with this metaphor, tennis is long distance relationship, doubles tenis is a bisexual game, and rugby is S&M. Anything can be a metaphor for anything, but odds are this isn’t what is happening

B. Dying your hair blue means you are a lesbian. I better go back in time and tell some of my straight friends who did this in high school that they might be gay (it’ll save them year of torturous straight marriage). There is lot of claims without explanation here. When she meets the girls who are pushing each other around, she is drawn to them based on their alternative look (which we know she is into with her blue hair). She puts her boyfriend 2nd to roller derby because why would she give up her new identity (which i am not saying IS heterosexual, but that is the only actual sexuality she shows in the film, maybe she’s bi, but it’s too hard to tell because I think what Jeremy is doing is looking at a lot of the social factors of becoming part of this all-female group and just throwing sexuality onto it). As a person in the audience (having seen it twice and the second time having this article in mind), I didn’t.

[High School Outcasts, Beware! Dying Your Hair Blue Can Cause Gayness]

C. I think it was pretty obvious these two were lesbians (or they could have just been experimenting, or bisexual), but this was literally a 20 second clip in the movie, and was never alluded too again.

I don’t want to respond to the entire article. I picked some points I think refute some of what this article is trying to put out there. He never really talks about the bisexual option (as Bliss does have sex with her boyfriend, and even when she “gives up him so easily”, it doesn’t feel like she is saying “goodbye all men”).

This is my last analysis, and I think it sums up a lot of the, “it’s more about gender, than sex” thing I am talking about here. Note that just about all the things he speaks about are a matter of gender, and not sexuality.

Let’s look at the men in this world: there’s the passive sports-crazed father, the sexually androgynous boyfriend, the I’m-just-one-of-the-girls coach and the horny roller derby announcer.

Just a note that because there are not strong, dominated males in this film, does not logically imply that Bliss is a lesbian. These less dominated males give the film a stream to punch forth their “girl power” (not sexual tendencies). I think its absurd to say that because males were sensitive and non-oppressing in this film, that somehow links sexuality. This directly goes against his earlier point about how repressed she would be in this environment. If there were all these effeminate males, wouldn’t she be more likely to “come out”.

Although dad flirts with mom he clearly loves sports and beer more than sex. This is made conscious with a scene in which Bliss encounters her father’s van in an abandoned, moonlit parking lot. All signs point to raunchy sex until she realizes that he’s just watching the Texas Long Horns.

So, her father is being emasculated because he does not commit adultery. Another absurd analysis. Also, I would say he still retains some of his “manhood” (not entirely sure why this is important), because he IS just sitting around watching sports and drinking beer (typical “man” behavior).

The boyfriend may be straight in the same way the Beatles were harmlessly straight, but his long hair, fondness for wrestling and effeminate smile, at the very least, sucks the testosterone out of the room.

Again, I do not see how her boyfriend lacking testosterone really says anything. This actual counters his point because if Oliver was so feminine, would she not have stayed with him? Although I guess the rebuttal would be that she left a girly man for actual women, but the point remains that because someone is masculine / feminine does not imply sexual orientation.

[Testosterone Free Zone]

The coach inexplicable wears tight jean shorts and inexplicably loves roller derby. He writes play books, pushes them in practice and cheerleads them during games. If roller derby is a metaphor for sexual identity then he nurtures and protects this identity in a way that few straight men can.

Even if he were gay (which we know he isn’t because he is making out with one of the team members at Johnny Rocket’s party), again I am not seeing the connection. He says “If roller derby is a metaphor for sexual identity…”, which proves he sees gender and sex as the same thing. “short shorts”, “cheering”, “writing play books”, are all behaviors that would imply gender, because someone cheers does not mean they have sex witha  certain type of person. I would say this point above all else discredits this argument a great deal.

[Playbooks & Jeanshorts, The End All To Be All]

Then there is “Hot Tub” Johnny Rocket, the announcer. He is the epitome of over-sexualized, aggressive machismo. Lesbians fearing rejection hate what he epitomizes, and he is predictably and harshly torn down. He is laughed off when he wants to join the ladies in the hot tub; his appeals to the audience for dates seem unsuccessful, at best. The last name “Rocket” makes it more than obvious that he represents a penis, an impotent one.

I wouldn’t entirely disagree with this (anymore than i do agree with it), although he isn’t aggressive in a violent way, moreso in the annoying “I want to get laid way”, which is important to note. I think the author is missing the point that the film is about women finding themselves and “Being their own hero”. It isn’t about Johnny getting laid. I did suggest earlier that the coach was getting some action at the party though, but if there is any metaphor, I would suggest that it is Johnny (who is sleezy), getting turned down because he is a dog who seemingly would take advantage of women (and only want them for sex). Is it wrong to reject this notion? I don’t think so.

There is  bunch more to the article, you should all read it. I don’t want to completely discredit it, but I think there is some major collisions with social factors that are ignored as well as the lack of distinction between gender and sex(uality), which I think in this case IS important because some of the things he is basing his analysis on are factors of gender, which do not imply sexuality. I suppose you could make the argument that because the movie does use some of these stereotypes of gender (and gender is usually associated with sexuality), that these points do ring true, but this blog is about analyzing gender (with some tendency to try and separate it from sexuality based on the fact that they are NOT mutually exclusive). There are some valid points in the article, and maybe young lesbians did view the movie that way, but I think you would have to reach down VERY deep to get these conclusions, but it does seem that Heather Hogan in her article “I See Gay People“, agrees. The article also talks about Hannah Montana being a metaphor for lesbian-hood. Although I don’t think that these metaphors CANNOT be see, I think you see what you want, which isn’t a bad thing, but I wouldn’t really put it up on Psychology Today. Heather, who writes for a Logo blog probably sees these metaphors in a lot of everyday movies/music/tv (as I do with gender-related materials, which is what drew me to Whip It, the positive female characters that break traditional gender stereotypes).

(Last point, I promise!)

Like I said, i’m not saying this ISN’T underlying in the film, , but if it was supposed to be there, it wasn’t strong enough (although Heather suggests Jeremy’s analysis supports that “lesbians can feel uplifted, and straight people can feel unthreatened”, but if you look at roller derby in general, the women are not hiding behind anything, they are gender-breakers by nature, so why be “in the closet” (if Bliss felt that way, she could have been herself with the women, but she never did anything that would suggest or imply that). If you want Hell on Wheels you get another perspective of how blunt and passionate these women were, and even if you go to the Maine Roller Derby website, they are very honest with who they are (and this is Maine!) ::

  • Moms, girlfriends, wives, and joyously single women
  • Straight girls, gay girls, and anything in between
  • Loud-mouthed firecrackers and quiet, reserved badasses
  • The list goes on and on…

So, either this was a MISS on the part of Drew Barrymore to disregard this inherent nature of roller derby women and to not realize that if Bliss was a lesbian, she would have come out OR she was just a teenager finding herself, her identity, with a bunch of women who broke gender tradition (and some of them WERE lesbian, go figure). You decide, but I know which one I am picking.

Saving Jane // Realizing the Falsity of Fairy Tales

November 17, 2008 | 1:05 am

I could not live without music, but better yet I couldn’t live without music that truly makes me think. Of course, we listen to music on the radio, in our car, while we work, while we eat, etc., but when I listen to music, I normally listen to the lyrics — what is the message the song is sending. This is one reason I really cannot relate to mainstream music, I feel the messages are bogged down with oppression for individuality. I cannot relate to a lot of mainstream rap because I feel it degrades women (and over-emphasizes a capitalistic lifestyle), so I find my range of music adjusting into indie a lot of times. Even though this happens, there are usually decent messages, but every so often, very progressive messages comes along. Now, one has to be careful with messages of progression because they could just be subterfuge to get people to think one thing but are really prescribing to another (see my post about Avril Lavigne), and although I am not sure the background of Saving Jane, I really liked this song when I found it. I have done some work with gender roles in fairy tales and how our culture still is creating the “same ole fairy tale”, and this song a girl (princess) realizes she does not need to live in that fairy tale!

BETTER DAY 

I have been asleep so long now
All locked up without a key
I have tapped my feet impatient
For a change to come to me
I’ve been hanging my hair
Outside this tower
Waiting for a savior
When all along I had the power to save myself
And I can tell
It’s gonna be a better day
I think I’m gonna be okay
Got a little air to breathe
It’s allright with me
I got a little light to shine
You can’t take what’s mine
I’ve been down so low
Nowhere but up to go
So go ahead, bring on the rain
It’s gonna be a better day

Every princess has a castle
Some kind of honor to defend
I would rather fight my battlews
Than hide behind a thousand men
I’ve been hanging my hair
Outside of this tower
Waiting for a savior
When all along, I had the power to save myself
And I can tell
It’s gonna be a better day
I think I’m gonna be okay
Got a little air to breathe
It’s allright with me
I got a little light to shine
You can’t take what’s mine
I’ve been down so low
Nowhere but up to go
So go ahead, bring on the rain
It’s gonna be a better day
I gotta make my own luck
I gotta find my own way
I gotta see that there is more to life than just existing
I wanna be living
It’s gonna be a better day
I think I’m gonna be okay
Got a little air to breathe
It’s allright with me
I got a little light to shine
You can’t take what’s mine
I’ve been down so low
Nowhere but up to go
So go ahead, bring on the rain
It’s gonna be a better day

I think Saving Jane has been on some Disney album before, so I think this is a nice message to be sending young girls, that they have the power to be who they want. She also has a song called One Girl Revolution. Although a few of her other songs take on messages around addiction (nicotine, alcohol), there is something to be said about breaking away from the fairy tale (reference to Rapunzel in this song). I find it interesting that so often parents do not question “traditions” that have been around for ages to pass along to their children, like fairy tales. There is so much gendering that happens in fairy tales, which is just one of a hundred ways parents subconsciously gender their children. I know if I ever have children I am showing them Free To Be You And Me (see my post here : http://www.wavinghand.com/gender_relations/?p=13). There is some great alternative media / stories if people were to seek them out, and I think this song helps get at breaking the helplessness of females in fairy tales! 


Beware Everyone…

June 5, 2008 | 5:10 pm

There’s nothing more infuriating and creepy than early media propaganda that dictates gender roles. There are a bunch of these over youtube, so I wanted to feature a few of them and talk about them.

  • Girls Beware

The reason I wanted to feature this video is because since the 50s, the fear mongering about woman’s safety has not released. Now, this video is rather extreme because it ends in the deaths of young girls for “wrongly trusting”. I went to a domestic abuse performance a few months ago, and they handed out information about sexual assault and domestic abuse. There were “tips” for staying safe in the pamphlet. For example – stay in brightly list areas, check the back of the car seat, don’t talk to strangers, etc. Now, this is from a center that helps victimized women, but should the approach always be one of fear? The point is that in this video (and even today) – women should be fearful around every corner and men are killers. If we lock ourselves into these roles, then there will always be a culture of fear surrounding the safety of women. I am not suggesting we lose our cautious minds because these are very real occurances, but I think the approach is seldom one that women aren’t responsible for.

  • Boys Beware

The happy part about this film is that I feel we have come somewhere since this anti-gay propaganda was created. I think hitchhiking in general is a horrible idea regardless of who you are. In many ways there have and have not been changes. The pieces I think have changed (thankfully) are the comments about homosexuality as a sickness. Now, I think a lot of people will agree that homosexuality is not a “sickness” – minus radicals of religious faith. A fear around homosexuals and teenagers still persists in our culture. We see this all of the time, but I think over the last decade, a lot of that fear has subsided. Hopefully, we can get to the day where everyone would see how ridiculous this video is. Some of the “best” parts are : “when never knows when the homosexual is about” , “sickness that was not visible like small pox but no less dangerous and contagious. sickness of the mind. Rob was a homosexual – a person who DEMANDS a relationship with the same sex…”. I just love how homosexuals DEMAND relationships.

I found this parody of the 50s style propaganda and sums up how ridiculous these videos were

  • Catching The Gay

It’s interesting to see how the media has and has not changed over the last 4 or 5 decades. I will agree 100% that there have been a lot of changes, but there is still a lot of fear mongering as well, and until we can get past that, I think there is still a lot to be done.

Genderblind College Policies

April 27, 2008 | 11:16 pm

I am mostly going to let this stand by itself, but I do want to highlight a few key points after the video.

There is much wrong with this video that I am really unsure of where to start. First John Kasich seems to be living in a time where men and women still sleep with boards between each other in their own beds. Christopher Kulawik doesn’t say a heck of a lot, so his side of the argument to Brittney Hoffman is from John.

KEY POINTS //

  • “if we have a transgender problem than that is a bigger problem” — where does John get off publically saying that transgendered people are PROBLEMS. They understandably do not fit into his category of conservative republicans, but they exist, so too bad for you John.
  • Chris states that these policies should not be instantiated because they only aid to minorities and the majority of people are going to use these policies in an abusive manor. Sorry Chris, but this is an actual need. GLBT students are not the only people are going to use these policies. Straight people with significant others and straight people who CAN ACTUALLY BE FRIENDS WITH GIRLS are going to use these policies. Plus, some people just feel more comfortable around girls. I wish I could have roomed with my best friend my first year of college, but as John stated he “couldn’t imagine what it would be like to room with a girl at Ohio State” — glad we are living in the dark ages still. On the other note, should we not be protecting minorities? According to Mr. Kulawik, minorities do not deserve to be safe. This point is brought up when John asks Brittney how many students are transgendered and she replies “the number is not important — it is a matter of safety”.
  • The most ridiculous comment made by John throughout this entire video has to be “I don’t know who is going around beating up transgendered people”. He has obviously never watched another news station besides Fox, or read any newspapers because transgendered people are victims of abuse almost more than any other minority around because of their gender expression.
  • I wish Brittney Hoffman had more time to speak, but she kept getting cut off. I felt as if she would have had more valuable information for viewers as well as John and Chris (though they were obviously not interested). They pretty much cut her off when she was making valid points as well as mocking her (“i think girls and boys still like each other”).
  • One of the most interesting pieces of the segment is when John starts talking about his tax dollars. The safety and comfort of all persons are not deserved by someone if they do not agree because their precious tax dollars hold power over people in this society (when in fact his tax dollars are not increasing by creating safe environments for everyone as Brittney stated). It was easy to tell that he was scared that he would be “supporting” this “outrageous policy” if his tax dollars were aiding the safety of people. In reality, his tax dollars right now are aiding to a system that segregates and creates awkward situations for people (which may lead to them getting beat up — oh wait , i forgot, that does not happen!)

There is a lot wrong with this video, but I guess anaylzying conservative media provokes such conversations. I often do not watch conservative media, so it is good to see what both sides are saying about structures that relate to gender. Feel free to comment with related thoughts on the video or the issue of genderblind housing.