Oppressed Men // Nut Up or Shut Up

February 5, 2010 | 1:12 pm

We love some good satire at here Gender Relations, which is why the other nights Daily Show had a great segment about men losing their status and power here in America. Samantha Bee goes head to head with sociologist, Dr. Warren Farrell, and I think she does a great job. Her expression of traditional masculinity (the hunting at the end being the best example) against the men’s expression (which seems very unmasculine) shows a very interesting dynamic of men losing power, and how they choose to act..

The men explain the problems they face (although they have a hard time really coming up with answers) in a way that is very sensitive through talking circles. So, there is a irony between the fact that they are losing their traditional senses of power and the fact that they are acting more ‘effeminate’. At the end, Bee even suggests that they are turning her into a lesbian and that they are ‘vaginamen’, which illustrates perfectly that the worst they have to lose is the traditional sense of masculinity (which is very aggressive at times), and that the images of men can be something different. There is a thin line with satire, because by calling them vaginamen, she could be emasculating them even further. There is also an irony that men are upset about WOMEN taking over their positions, yet they are “acting like women”. Maybe the gender struggle is more about power than anything else. When you feel like you are at the bottom (even if it is an illusion), then you become more sensitive, open, communicable, etc. An interesting theory to mull over.

Samantha also cracks a joke about reclaiming their manhood (after making a joke about masturbating in a circle) in relation to their sexuality, which is hard to tell if the joke is clumping sexuality and gender together or not, but something to consider.

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On a more serious note, the ominous news clips at the beginning of the segment are not unlike the feelings these men are expressing in these groups. I don’t find the groups themselves to be hurting anyone, inherently, but you must look at why they are there. They seem like relatively sensitive men (talking sticks?) who are hurting about a loss of power, yet reacting unlike a man of power would react in the situation. Maybe because they are large cultural changes that are happening allowing females to take positions of power, education, and presence in the media, men cannot directly do anything about it.

This feeling of defeat that the men are feeling should be used as a reflective one to both :

Empathize women’s past struggles // There is a huge increase of women coming into power, but have they not earned it? In the past more women have sought out higher education (which makes them more qualified for a large amount of the jobs in our country). Although, matriarchy is not a better model than patriarchy (and I certainly do not see it coming to that, as men are STILL in power), I think this gives men a unique opportunity to try to fit into the ‘high heels’ of women’s historic disadvantage.

Focus on creating better relationships with women // Men and women are not that different. There does not have to be large power differences (shouldn’t the best person get the job?). When men and women work together, really the only loss that can occur is one of traditional power structures. Focusing on how everyone can work better as human beings and not men or women can be beneficial.

I have seen a lot of these men’s groups popping up lately. Magazines dedicated to the proposition, entire organizations functioning on the sole thought that men are losing their grips of power, but when you look at the statistics (which I believe Samantha and The Daily Show point out quite eloquently), it becomes easy to see that men have nothing to fear with their hands grasped tightly to the major corporations in our country. I can see how women becoming equal could threaten a man’s position, but it has been a position that fits wrongly in the place of decency. We are equal people, and before this gets too corny, I would like to end by saying that these groups could help awaken men to be more sensitive and open (but without the banter of losing power).

Feministing (where I found this clip), really positions themselves in the area that the segment was unsuccessful and that it seemed to be making fun of men who weren’t meeting the traditions of masculinity anyways. I would agree with this (which was addressed in some of my comments above), but at the same time, it is important to realize why the men are there. I think the groups are great because men are expressing themselves in non-traditional ways, but it is as a backlash to women becoming more equal. Even though they do break out of traditional dominance of masculinity, they aren’t doing it for the reasons of safety or progressive attitudes, but because they feel like they are losing something (that does not inherently even belong to them) If men becoming more sensitive and women becoming more equal is the end of the formula, then why not? I do understand the point of the target, and I feel like the nature of TDS is to draw attention to a group like this (to get an alternative view – agreed they could have done it a little better), but I think Bee’s behavior in the segment is really reflective of trying to reject traditional masculinity that those men feel like they have lost (which I think the origin of why the group is formed is very integral to understanding why they are breaking out of the traditional format of masculinity). It’s a touchy line, and hard to discern one way or the other, but her gross representation of masculinity was one I felt paired interestingly with the gross behavior of the men.

A tip of the hat to Feministing, where I found this story.

What is your take on the segment?

Tubes of Lipstick // Lily Holbrook’s “Bleed”

January 29, 2010 | 1:53 pm

Sometimes it’s hard to find A.) Music that does not mention the word “bitch”, “ho”, or another derogatory word

in it, especially on the radio, and B.) go one step beyond that and find music with a very positive AND progressive message (lots of children’s music is positive, but may not be progressive).

In an effort to steer people in some directions of some media that is either hopeful or critical of certain gender related topics, I want to try to post at least 1 “alternative a week”.

That brings me to musician Lily Holbrook. Her sound is very dim, almost morose, and I wouldn’t say as an artist all her music is overly progressive, but one song on the album “Everything was Beautiful and Nothing Hurt” titled “Bleed” has a very positive message embedded about the state of unrealistic expectations (for female body image) and even uses that phrase. Sometimes we can see progressive messages between the lines, but I find it really helpful (especially for teenagers) if there is some media out there that has equally blatant messages as those we hear on the radio on the other side of the spectrum.

It is always my position to educate and not erradicate. Some of the music on the radio has some really good beats. I think the problem comes in when we don’t really listen to the lyrics and wonder why everything has to be about sex, and it cannot be about community or friendship or other positive messages.

Lily’s “Bleed” really tackles the depression and feelings that come about when we feel as if we cannot measure up to the media’s messages.

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Gloss over all those magazines
Painted with plastic surgery
And replace so easily
By a girl like you or me

Expectations are unrealistic
Between the mirror and the tube of lipstick

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed
Bleed

Sad, pathetic little me
Never thought I’d be so eager to please
And replaced so easily
By a girl like you or me

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed
Bleed

You see, the world is different now
Everybody’s different now
Everybody needs a little fixing up
But when’s it gonna stop
‘Cause I don’t even recognize you anymore
Do you love yourself now?
Do you love yourself now?

Gloss over all those magazines
Painted with plastic surgery

You thought you’d be what they wanted you to be
Thought you could be what they wanted you to be
But you’ll never be what they wanted you to be
‘Cause you bleed

Although music is highly interpretable, the main question becomes what does “Bleed” specifically refer to. It could be quite literal to the problem. Many women (and men), use cutting as a means to deal with their depression and feelings of isolation. It could be a metaphor for the internal pain, it could also mean the literal blood that some women draw in order to look “beautifulI” (she cites modeling and plastic surgery). For me, it means all of these things, and I think it’s a really powerful song for young girls and boys to hear, that they don’t have to look to those places, and feel so alone because they are fabrications.

State of the Union // Education Leads to Media Literacy!

January 28, 2010 | 12:56 am

Although this isn’t specifically gender-related, this is a progressive blog, and I think it is without warrant that we should be actively engaged in what is going on. Media literacy as a method of examining our daily intake of messages is a productive format, and in all fairness the State of the Union was a huge media event. I’m not going to make a bunch of grandiose connections between a more gender liberal society and any of the proposals put forth tonight, but at the same time, I think we can see how becoming a more progressive, well-educated society can benefit change in many directions, so i’ll note a few of those.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell Alleviation

This is probably the closest to home for gender progression. Although, it is true I often try to separate sexual orientation, sex, and gender, I think it is a valid point to bring across that the military (which is very gendered towards masculinity even for women) will be absolved of their policies in order to allow openly gay and lesbian people join the military. Although this may not breakthrough as a gender win specifically, I think the more liberal the nation becomes surrounding gay issues, the further they become open to transgender, gender bending, and gender neutral though processes. On a completely separated from gender side of things, this is a great stress and weight lifted off of gays and lesbians living in the closet in the military. This doesn’t come as a complete surprise as Obama has elected a transgender to the commerce department of government. Although he didn’t make a comment on gay marriage. I have a feeling he is for it (given his current mode of thinking and decision-making), but at this point in the game a decision like that could be political suicide.

Education

There were a few announcements in regard to education surrounding loans, grants, and public service loan forgiveness. Although these policies do not directly relate, I think education is key to a liberal environment (or at the very least open-mindedness). This isn’t a fact by any means, but I know from growing up in a very rural setting with a conservative high school education, I did not start thinking overly progressive until I stepped outside of that education system into alternative environments. But, also coming from a low income background, I would not have really been submitted to other viewpoints (where I could choose how I felt), without the Upward Bound program (that helps first-generation, low-income, high school students get to college). With the options to make education more accessible, I think this will pull the nation into a place that remains more open-minded (which hopefully would open up to other expressions – I know its a stretch, but its on my wishlist).

On the very straight-forward side, all his plans go very deeply and intelligently together between jobs, spending, education, etc, and I think it all connects to this really elegant quote :

“In America, no one should go broke because they chose to go to college”

There you have it, I really feel like education is a key part of this journey. A lot of the concerns raised in this blog are about how to read the media, how to digest messages, how to have conversations, and I think those are all abilities we construct through education, discussion, and involvement. I think that is the key point in relation to the purpose of understanding culture and raising media literacy (although a tangential goal)

Just some thoughts for the day, if you have any let’s hear them!

Packaging Gender // Event at University of Maine

January 13, 2010 | 6:46 pm

Although I have yet to get all the way through the book “Packaging Girlhood” by Lyn Mikel Brown and Sharon Lamb, it is a great analysis of how marketing and media extrapolate gender stereotypes for girls and sell them through tv, movies, clothing, and other society “packages”. The authors of that book , including Mark Tappan, have recently released their followup “Packaging Boyhood”. My copy came in the mail today, and I have read the intro thus far, and it sounds really exciting.

Anyways, the authors will be at the University of Maine (in Orono) on January 26th for a few events :

Stodder Hall
10 – 11:30

After this presentation and discussion they will be at the

Women in Curriculum Luncheon in the Bangor Room starting at 12:15

If you haven’t heard of the books, pick them up, they are a great stepping stone into gender based marketing research and are really comprehensive (as much as you can be on the media) with their examples and though process. I am sure after reading Packaging Boyhood I will have a new take on some of the blogging that I do myself. I already am having some interesting realizations after reading the introduction.

See you there!

The Proof is in the Penis // Comedic Return

January 12, 2010 | 10:26 pm

I am a huge fan of Sarah Silverman. I realize she isn’t everyone’s cup of tea (although I would argue that people don’t take the time to realize she is being ironic and playing an ignorant character), but I think she has a lot of important social messages she puts forth in her comedy. Those who are fans can rejoice at the new season coming up with 10 new episodes. Reading the description, I am sure I will have some insightful response to the episode. Although gender and/or sex isn’t a huge focus of her comedy, I think her writing style allows for a lot of open-minded discussion to occur. The premier episode entitled “The Proof is in the Penis”, should have enough to talk about. Below is the info a la press release : ‘The Sarah Silverman Program’ is Finally Back! The Third Season Begins Thursday, February 4 at 10:30 p.m. on COMEDY CENTRAL

Welcome back to the wacky world of Sarah Silverman.  Follow Sarah and the rest of the gang as she takes on pedophile vans, rigs a mayoral election, takes a stance on “Real Time with Bill Maher” and reconnects with her imaginary childhood friend (played by Andy Samberg), among other adventures in this irreverent new season.  COMEDY CENTRAL’s hit series, “The Sarah Silverman Program,” returns for a third season with 10 all-new episodes beginning on Thursday, February 4 at 10:30 p.m. with a secondary run on Logo beginning Tuesday, February 9 at10:30 p.m.  The new “Important Things with Demetri Martin”/”The Sarah Silverman Program” block airs on Thursdays.

“The Sarah Silverman Program” stars the Emmy® Award winner Silverman who plays a character (aptly named Sarah Silverman) whose absurd daily life is told through narrative and an occasional song.  In each episode, Sarah falls into unique, unsettling and always hilarious predicaments, with her sister (played by real-life sister Laura Silverman), her nerdy gay neighbors, Brian and Steve (Brian Posehn and Steve Agee) and dim-witted Officer Jay (Jay Johnston) never far from her side.

In the premiere episode, “The Proof is in the Penis,” Laura wants Sarah to “man-up” and start taking responsibilities for her life, so she falsely informs her that she was born a hermaphrodite.  Sarah accepts her manhood and decides to move into the woods and live off of the land.  Meanwhile, Brian and Steve are haunted by Mr. Jenkins and must dig up his grave and replace the remote that killed him in his corpse’s chest.

Source : TV By Numbers

Going for the Double Whip // Orientation Vs. Gender

January 7, 2010 | 1:22 pm

Whip It was released in theaters last October (when I should have posted this), but I watched it again last night, and got “Derby Fever” once again. If you are unfamiliar with the film, Ellen Page stars as Bliss Cavender, an alternative misfit who works on a diner and leads a relatively guided life with her mother constantly entering pageants. She soon finds a flyer for a women’s roller derby bout and falls instantly in love. Without giving the entire plot, she joins the team and soars, finding herself in the fitting mantra of the film : Be Your Own Hero.

Putting my love for Ellen Page is hard because she plays this role like a rockstar, but the shows bevy of positive gender roles throughout it. I’ve often coined that “matriarchy is no better than patriarchy”, which could be construed in this film (how is it different than say, men’s wrestling?) because the full contact sport can be relatively injury-inducing. I don’t really want to press the point on this because although agressive sports have their spot for discussion, the film focuses more on the relationships of Bliss finding herself as a young woman.

The characters in this film are phenomenal. Drew Barrymore’s directorial debut shines with positive female energy. The women in the film are both aggressive and caring. Kristen Wiig’s character is touch on the skates, but at night does not go out with her fellow teammates because she is taking care of her son. This shows a mixture of traditional “caretaking” and agressive sports participation. Viewers don’t even realize the “caretaking” side of her until much later on in the film because her son is often referred to as “her man” (which implies she has a boyfriend waiting at home). Drew’s character is probably the most agressive, getting into fights, playfully beating up her boyfriend, and generally having violent tendencies, but she is still fun and loving (she keeps her aggression in the game for the most part).

As much as I am not for agressive sports, the film takes me back to my childhood when roller derby gained it’s second wind of popularity. Even though women being violent isn’t an answer to all the “gender problems” in our society, I think leveling the playing field and showing that women can be tough, independent, and organize themselves (although their coach is male). The film is very loosely based on the real life roller derby resurgence that happened in the 90’s. If you watch the documentary, Hell on Wheels, you get an entirely different outlook on the reality of this resurgence. I would recommend this film as well because it shows how the real life coach was really in it for the money and screwed over the women who were the heart of roller derby, so the re-organized themselves without him.

I don’t want to boast about all the metaphors in the film, it’s a coming of age film, so there are a lot of layers about growth and the transitions from teen to adulthood. When I first saw the film, I was doing some research to see what other people thought about the film, and I found an article in “Psychology Today” entitled “Lesbian Fantasy, Disguised“, where author Jeremy Clyman suggests that the entire film was a huge “coming out” story for Ellen Page’s character. Although my bias comes in the form of being drawn to sociological theory and reasoning, I think some of the claims in this article are just far out. I will start off by saying that film, like most art, is highly interpretive, so his analysis on the film has validity, my main gripe comes with passing off his personal interpretation as either scientific, or sound enough to have on a website that is supposed to support psychological research. My other problem comes with the fact that most of this article ignores any sociological factors.

But I think this film is also a secret communication to closeted lesbians living in hostile places in which the closet is the only safe place to be.

I didn’t get this at all from the film. Bliss and her mother have a tumultuous relationship, but I don’t see this as a “closet-case”. Bliss’ mother enters her into debutant-style pageants, and as a growing teen who is moving into an alternative lifestyle, it just does not fit. A lot of this article talks about “secret communication” a.k.a. “Metaphor!”, which can be found in any film, it doesn’t exclusively suggest that this is the case. Bliss reconsiles with her mother at the end (although agreed her mother doesn’t fully accept it). Although seeing the film through Jeremy’s interpretation would be a good one, and someone like me who is usually looking for metaphors did not see this level of the film at all (again, not suggesting it cannot be there)

Let’s back up before we get into conspiracy theories. “Whip It” is directed by a female (Barrymore), its protagonist is female (Page), and the story is about a girl who becomes a woman in a female dominated world. There isn’t a serious male character to be seen. Oddly enough, the film is also about sports and the Deep South. I know what you’re thinking. I, as a heterosexual man, am incapable of watching an exclusively female story without conflating its straightforward coming-of-age purpose with some sort of secret, subversive sexual agenda.

He does note this, but although they are not the lead characters, there is at least 1 serious male role (which he later effeminates in the article as he wears short shorts). The more you read the article the more you can see that gender is the primary transcendance of this film, and not sexuality (the only obvious sexuality in the film is when Bliss has sex with her :boyfriend: Oliver.

I have developed the hypothesis of “Whip It” as lesbian fantasy in disguise, because even if this is not the intention of the filmmaker, it still works on this level, and by functioning on this level it is serving a social purpose above and beyond the gender equality comment that women can make films too.

I don’t think the “purpose” of the film is to show that women can make films, I think it is that women can be strong, agressive, play sports, kick ass, and still be caring, loving, and dynamic (as all humans should be).

First, there needs to be a concealable stigma, as it is this notion that constitutes the heart of the dilemma of being, in this case, homosexual. Possessing a concealable stigma means that a significant aspect of one’s identity can be hidden from the public, and the public has arbitrarily defined this aspect of identity to be poisonous/unequal/unlovable/you get the idea. “Whip It” is about a less intense stigma than being gay; it is about being a female athlete in a sport that is embedded in a punk culture. This is sufficiently unsuitable for a high-society southern lady hoping to appease societal expectations.

Note the part in bold. He says directly that the stigma is not about being gay, that it is about being a female athlete. Now, if we know anything of SOCIOLOGY, we’d know that gender is a social construct, such as “a female being an athlete”. “Punk Culture”, “High-Society”, “Societal Expectations” (i feel like he is accepting it there at the end), but these are all factors that would hinge on the “female being an athlete” portion of the film, into a gender-breaking film, not a sexuality-breaking film. If Whip it wanted to be “gay”, it would have done it more obviously like in Point C of this next quote

A. “Whip It” is about roller blading, which this movie defines as a group of half-drunk women, in tight athletic gear and rollerblades muscling each other for inside positioning, as a few key teammates weave in and out of the pack. Those that have finesse are chased by those that have strength, somewhat akin to the cat and mouse pursuit of a top and bottom sexual power dynamic (there’s a reason the standard sexual position is missionary). In short, this game is a metaphor for sex.
B. The protagonist, Bliss (Page), behaves in the way that a lesbian might behave before she knows she’s a lesbian. We meet her just as she’s playfully dying her hair blue for a beauty pageant. Her inexplicable love for roller derby is incited by the image of three women pushing each other on rollerblades. She dumps her boyfriend with suspicious ease and celerity. She’s an adolescent who likes to be different, is experimental and puts a boyfriend second to roller derby. Now, obviously none of these things makes her a suppressed lesbian, but as a lesbian in the audience you might be cued into the possibility of an alternative, unconscious sexual agenda.
C. A character named “Jaba the Slut” is definitely a lesbian. She winks at girls and offers them drinks and come-on lines. This is never made explicit, which signals to the audience that lesbianism is both present and not really present.

A. There seems to be a lot of stretching happening here. First of all the “Hurl Scouts” (that sounds sexy, doesn’t it!), and the other teams do dress a little “scantily”, but this could easily be attributed to women recognizing their sexuality (a la “My Short Skirt” in the Vagina Monologues), but it is for them only. They are strong and powerful women, is it gay that men who play football wear tights as well? What would you call a male dancer in a leotard with an all female troupe? Is he trying to “get all the ladies”, gender and stereotyping would dictate otherwise. I don’t think I can even justify a response to how “being chased by those with strength” is a metaphor for sex, with this metaphor, tennis is long distance relationship, doubles tenis is a bisexual game, and rugby is S&M. Anything can be a metaphor for anything, but odds are this isn’t what is happening

B. Dying your hair blue means you are a lesbian. I better go back in time and tell some of my straight friends who did this in high school that they might be gay (it’ll save them year of torturous straight marriage). There is lot of claims without explanation here. When she meets the girls who are pushing each other around, she is drawn to them based on their alternative look (which we know she is into with her blue hair). She puts her boyfriend 2nd to roller derby because why would she give up her new identity (which i am not saying IS heterosexual, but that is the only actual sexuality she shows in the film, maybe she’s bi, but it’s too hard to tell because I think what Jeremy is doing is looking at a lot of the social factors of becoming part of this all-female group and just throwing sexuality onto it). As a person in the audience (having seen it twice and the second time having this article in mind), I didn’t.

[High School Outcasts, Beware! Dying Your Hair Blue Can Cause Gayness]

C. I think it was pretty obvious these two were lesbians (or they could have just been experimenting, or bisexual), but this was literally a 20 second clip in the movie, and was never alluded too again.

I don’t want to respond to the entire article. I picked some points I think refute some of what this article is trying to put out there. He never really talks about the bisexual option (as Bliss does have sex with her boyfriend, and even when she “gives up him so easily”, it doesn’t feel like she is saying “goodbye all men”).

This is my last analysis, and I think it sums up a lot of the, “it’s more about gender, than sex” thing I am talking about here. Note that just about all the things he speaks about are a matter of gender, and not sexuality.

Let’s look at the men in this world: there’s the passive sports-crazed father, the sexually androgynous boyfriend, the I’m-just-one-of-the-girls coach and the horny roller derby announcer.

Just a note that because there are not strong, dominated males in this film, does not logically imply that Bliss is a lesbian. These less dominated males give the film a stream to punch forth their “girl power” (not sexual tendencies). I think its absurd to say that because males were sensitive and non-oppressing in this film, that somehow links sexuality. This directly goes against his earlier point about how repressed she would be in this environment. If there were all these effeminate males, wouldn’t she be more likely to “come out”.

Although dad flirts with mom he clearly loves sports and beer more than sex. This is made conscious with a scene in which Bliss encounters her father’s van in an abandoned, moonlit parking lot. All signs point to raunchy sex until she realizes that he’s just watching the Texas Long Horns.

So, her father is being emasculated because he does not commit adultery. Another absurd analysis. Also, I would say he still retains some of his “manhood” (not entirely sure why this is important), because he IS just sitting around watching sports and drinking beer (typical “man” behavior).

The boyfriend may be straight in the same way the Beatles were harmlessly straight, but his long hair, fondness for wrestling and effeminate smile, at the very least, sucks the testosterone out of the room.

Again, I do not see how her boyfriend lacking testosterone really says anything. This actual counters his point because if Oliver was so feminine, would she not have stayed with him? Although I guess the rebuttal would be that she left a girly man for actual women, but the point remains that because someone is masculine / feminine does not imply sexual orientation.

[Testosterone Free Zone]

The coach inexplicable wears tight jean shorts and inexplicably loves roller derby. He writes play books, pushes them in practice and cheerleads them during games. If roller derby is a metaphor for sexual identity then he nurtures and protects this identity in a way that few straight men can.

Even if he were gay (which we know he isn’t because he is making out with one of the team members at Johnny Rocket’s party), again I am not seeing the connection. He says “If roller derby is a metaphor for sexual identity…”, which proves he sees gender and sex as the same thing. “short shorts”, “cheering”, “writing play books”, are all behaviors that would imply gender, because someone cheers does not mean they have sex witha  certain type of person. I would say this point above all else discredits this argument a great deal.

[Playbooks & Jeanshorts, The End All To Be All]

Then there is “Hot Tub” Johnny Rocket, the announcer. He is the epitome of over-sexualized, aggressive machismo. Lesbians fearing rejection hate what he epitomizes, and he is predictably and harshly torn down. He is laughed off when he wants to join the ladies in the hot tub; his appeals to the audience for dates seem unsuccessful, at best. The last name “Rocket” makes it more than obvious that he represents a penis, an impotent one.

I wouldn’t entirely disagree with this (anymore than i do agree with it), although he isn’t aggressive in a violent way, moreso in the annoying “I want to get laid way”, which is important to note. I think the author is missing the point that the film is about women finding themselves and “Being their own hero”. It isn’t about Johnny getting laid. I did suggest earlier that the coach was getting some action at the party though, but if there is any metaphor, I would suggest that it is Johnny (who is sleezy), getting turned down because he is a dog who seemingly would take advantage of women (and only want them for sex). Is it wrong to reject this notion? I don’t think so.

There is  bunch more to the article, you should all read it. I don’t want to completely discredit it, but I think there is some major collisions with social factors that are ignored as well as the lack of distinction between gender and sex(uality), which I think in this case IS important because some of the things he is basing his analysis on are factors of gender, which do not imply sexuality. I suppose you could make the argument that because the movie does use some of these stereotypes of gender (and gender is usually associated with sexuality), that these points do ring true, but this blog is about analyzing gender (with some tendency to try and separate it from sexuality based on the fact that they are NOT mutually exclusive). There are some valid points in the article, and maybe young lesbians did view the movie that way, but I think you would have to reach down VERY deep to get these conclusions, but it does seem that Heather Hogan in her article “I See Gay People“, agrees. The article also talks about Hannah Montana being a metaphor for lesbian-hood. Although I don’t think that these metaphors CANNOT be see, I think you see what you want, which isn’t a bad thing, but I wouldn’t really put it up on Psychology Today. Heather, who writes for a Logo blog probably sees these metaphors in a lot of everyday movies/music/tv (as I do with gender-related materials, which is what drew me to Whip It, the positive female characters that break traditional gender stereotypes).

(Last point, I promise!)

Like I said, i’m not saying this ISN’T underlying in the film, , but if it was supposed to be there, it wasn’t strong enough (although Heather suggests Jeremy’s analysis supports that “lesbians can feel uplifted, and straight people can feel unthreatened”, but if you look at roller derby in general, the women are not hiding behind anything, they are gender-breakers by nature, so why be “in the closet” (if Bliss felt that way, she could have been herself with the women, but she never did anything that would suggest or imply that). If you want Hell on Wheels you get another perspective of how blunt and passionate these women were, and even if you go to the Maine Roller Derby website, they are very honest with who they are (and this is Maine!) ::

  • Moms, girlfriends, wives, and joyously single women
  • Straight girls, gay girls, and anything in between
  • Loud-mouthed firecrackers and quiet, reserved badasses
  • The list goes on and on…

So, either this was a MISS on the part of Drew Barrymore to disregard this inherent nature of roller derby women and to not realize that if Bliss was a lesbian, she would have come out OR she was just a teenager finding herself, her identity, with a bunch of women who broke gender tradition (and some of them WERE lesbian, go figure). You decide, but I know which one I am picking.

Yahoo! Hires Angry Young Black Teen // Uh-Oh Gender AND Race!?

January 6, 2010 | 1:07 am

This is an image I saw some time ago, and have had it saved on my computer (I am trying to update the site more frequently!). I was just logging into my Yahoo! E-Mail account, when I saw a relatively disturbing image!

The image is clearly showing a mother and son. Yahoo! is implying that she will be getting updates about her son (who looks like he could be on his way to college), but he doesn’t look too happy about that (don’t use Yahoo!?). My main concern with this image is a simple one. Why can he not be happy? I am sure tons of teens relate to the overcaring mother who wants to know what their child is up to all the time, and it kind of annoys them, but he looks like he is about to throw her onto the other side of this ad. Now, just because gender is what this blog is about, I think this simple ad that is advertising e-mail is overly aggressive, portraying a young black man (double stigma!) as stone-cold and emotionless while his dear mother reads about how he had chicken nuggets for lunch (it’s a pretty big secret).

Not to go too far down the over-reacting road, but Jackson Katz talks a lot about the portrayal of black men in media in his film Tough Guise. When black men started getting roles in Hollywood, they were often playing roles of gang members, abusive husbands, or crocked cops. Although we’ve come a long way (some of this taking place in the 80s and 90s), there are still subtle hints of it throughout culture (and at times not so subtle hints). If you haven’t seen the film, do so, it is one of my favorite gender critique films!

My point here is a simple one. Why does Yahoo! not take the high road. Maybe they are going for stoic, cool, son who’s mother has an more vested interested in her son than he does in her (which is also a typical family dynamic), but in this time, with advertising so rampant (especially on the net), why perpetuate this. It’s funny because if the ends of his lips were about 2 degrees pointed upwards each, I wouldn’t have even second guessed it, but when I am logging in and see an “angry black man”, I look over, then try putting together this whole puzzle! I’d like to think i’m overreacting, and you probably think I am, but watch Tough Guise a few times and you’ll see what I am talking about. These are not end all to be alls, but it’s something worth considering.

Free to Be..US // Open Call

October 27, 2009 | 2:25 pm

Free to Be…Us is a research project that I am forming as an open call for response in relation to Free to Be…US (see my original post about this 70s progressive media).

It would be great if any of you wanted to respond to the call. I am really trying to jump start something in coordination to the film and this blog that jump starts creating progressive media that reflects positive messages. Links and call are below :

Free To Be…US Homepage
The Call

Calling all artists,sociologists, college students, parents, participants and viewers of media to:

  1. Help us create positive examples of a culture based in equality.
  2. Reflect a spirit that seeks to engender a progressive culture.

Free To Be…US is an open call for response to the popular 70’s Film “Free to Be…You and Me.”  This project is a way to inform and create a new generation of progressive educational media exploring the topics of gender, family, individuality, equality, and relationships.

Free To Be…US Directions : Participants are invited to peruse responses to the Free to Be…You and Me (FTBYAM) segments on the main web page (noted as “prompts”) and respond through any media/form that you wish, but documented through video.

Responses will be part of an online video gallery launching on December 8th.

The “prompts” are located in the FTBYAM Original Category consisting of the original segments of the film

Once you have finished your response and documented it, please upload your response to the “Free To be Us” Video Channel on YouTube : HERE (click submit video at the top).

Please list the following criteria in your video upload submission description

* Original “prompt” title you are responding to
* Description of response
* Explanation of response

– Upload to the “Free to Be…Us” Video Channel

Responses must be uploaded by November 23rd
* You May Respond To More Than 1 Prompt
Free to Be…Us Online Gallery will be exhibiting starting December 8th

There has yet to be a similar compilation of children’s media that parallel an atmosphere of fun and raise the issues surrounding the aforementioned topics without preaching or hammering a message into people’s minds. A subtle approach to education and media . Marlo Thomas had an incredible vision that seems to be unmet in todays culture of media saturation. So it is up to you, as a community of artists, sociologists, college students, parents, participants and viewers of media to create positive examples of equality that reflect a culture that wants to procure progressive culture.


Marriage Equality Hearing (Maine)

April 21, 2009 | 12:50 pm

(although this post is not regarding gender specifically, it is an important issue)

So, tomorrow I am taking off from work and class to go down to Augusta, Maine where a hearing about marriage equality will take place. If you live in Maine, it is really important to get down there to be supportive. They are bussing down people that are against this issue. If you are going, wear red to show support!

http://equalitymaine.org/marriage-and-families/come-the-public-hearing-the-marriage-bill-ld-1020

Come to the Public Hearing on the Marriage Bill (LD 1020)

April 22,2009 9:00 am

Maine’s marriage campaign is moving to the next level.  The hearing on the marriage bill has been scheduled for Wednesday, April 22 at the Augusta Civic Center.  Make no mistake about it: April 22 will be the single most important day of this campaign outside of the final vote. The media, legislators, governor, and people of Maine will be watching.  We need you there.

Email april22@equalitymaine.org to RSVP for the marriage bill hearing. Be sure to include your name, address and phone number.

Our opponents already announced they will have over 1,000 people at the hearing.  We cannot let them outnumber us on this critical day.  The LGBT and allied community must come together like never before.

Please plan to bring your friends, family and children with you – this will be a family-friendly event.  RSVP at april22@equalitymaine.org.  Be sure to include your name, address and phone number.  Once you RSVP, our staff will be in touch with important details about the hearing.  Space will be limited, so we have to be organized and arrive early.

Event Location:
Augusta Civic Center
76 Community Dr.
Augusta, ME 04330
See map: Google Maps

A Question of Language // Surveying Meanings

January 14, 2009 | 1:38 pm

You should read the post just before this one as a precursor to this posting.[ here ]

I thought I would “take the study” that I talked about in my last blog post.

APPENDIX A: SENTENCE COMPLETION ITEMS

(answers in bold)

1. The sex of the boy is ________. male masculine

2. The girl’s gender is ________. female feminine

3. “Feminine is an adjective that best describes a person’s ________. sex gender

4. The ________ of the cat is male. sex gender

5. The woman decided to change her _______ with surgery. sex gender

6. The man decided to wear makeup, an evening gown, and high heels to the dinner. In doing so, he was able to convince people that he was a woman and in effect changed his _______. sex gender

7. ________ differences in the blood pressure readings of heart disease patients. sex gender

8. Youth and aggression: A study of _______ differences. sex gender

9. The first few days after she gave birth, relatives and friends wanted to know the _______ of the baby. sex gender

10. ________ is biologically determined. sex gender

11. The boy’s gender is ________. male masculine

12. The sex of the girl is _______. female feminine

13. “Masculine” is an adjective that best describes a person’s ________. sex gender

APPENDIX B: GENDER BELIEF ITEMS

1. The word “gender” can be used as a synonym for the word “sex.”

No, This cannot be true because gender is a term used for the social construction of how men and women should act. There needs to be a seperate term than sex that implies the social norms and rules of the sexes, which subsequently becomes “gender”. Because someone is born with a penis or vagina does not dictate (inherently) that they will wear certain clothing, play with certain toys, act in a certain way, treat others a certain way, or any of topic that can be explained through “gender”.

2. It is always correct to use the word gender when describing a person as male or female.

Well, male or female (to me) dictates biology – the pronouns used for having a certain type of genitalia, whereas the terms masculine and feminine describe the connoted actions of males and females (sex) to a social standard (gender).

3. Each person has a sex and a gender.

Sex – Yes
Gender – let’s get into tricky territory here. Although I don’t agree that anyone has to IDENTIFY as a given gender, I do believe that one cannot escape gender since it is the construction of social behavior. Regardless of whether I choose to do something in a purposeful manor or not, those actions are determinately gendered. Although there are many facets in life that can remain gender neutral, so much of our world is already gendered, and the choices we make reflect a “choice” that we have taken to fall somewhere on a gender spectrum. Now, just like with sexuality, there is a fluid gauge on a number line where you can be (gay / straight) masculine or feminine (and there are many gender lines – how you act at work, school, home, etc. could all portray different gender points). Using this argument and metaphor though, I could say that someone could choose to live without a gender because if pomosexuality (not identifying a sexual orientation) exists, the same could for gender. In this arrangement, though, just because one does not choose to identify does not mean that they do not have a sexuality or a gender. There is always gravitation. Because we live in a culture with so much information, how we act in accordance fills up the capacities of our gender tanks. Personally, I am always trying to stay away from stereotyping and worrying about doing something because it is “gendered”, which could be called gender bending, but because those predetermined lines are there, and gender is involved in EVERYTHING in our society, I would find it hard to say that a person doesn’t have a gender (as most of the time gender is given TO US).

4. A person’s sex does not necessarily match stereotypical gender assignment.

True. I think between the last blog, and the study, it is apparent that because someone has a certain biology it does not dictate their social actions and reactions.

5. There is something wrong or unhealthy with a male who does not possess a masculine gender.

False. Those are social weights put on men to act a certain way, that is often times very scary to deal with since it is a dominating and often oppressive radical view. The system of masculinity and femininity are truly only useful to determine suitability for someone to find a mate. Past gender as a “useful” tool for seeking out a mate, it serves little purpose other than social control. I have had a lot of debates about the “USE” of gender, and the only valid point I can accept is that it allows people to visibly know a potential mate, but there are problems with this too : the judgment of first impressions, the assumption that people do not gender bend, the superficiality of dating based solely on your containment of the visual aspects of others, etc. It’s obvious that if I see someone who looks like a “feminine” human, I will be able to note that they are a candidate for myself, but then this assumes that the only reason we interact, look, or seek out people is to mate with them, or within masculinity – to find “bros”. This is all very assumptuous, but I find little use in the concept of gender (which is ironic that I am so interested in it), and if others think it is unhealthy to not adhere to strong tendencies of masculinity (or femininity) , then I feel really bad that they feel that gender is that important to care about.

That was fun, feel free to post a comment with your version of the survey!